Love Ethic seems too hard!

Life would be better with more love, of course it would. When we go through our daily lives doing everything with a love ethic, ultimately everyone's lives who we come into contact with will be better. The auther suggests that "Awakening to love can happen only as we let go of our obsession with power and domination." I try to live like this already, but I still find power and domination to be somewhat necessary. In my world power and domination take the form of competitiveness. As a stage performer I go to a lot of auditions, and often have to perform a dance combination within a group of people. When doing the dance I have to work to be better than the people around me and to stand out or else I will not get the part. I can work with the people I am auditioning with to make them look good as well, but ultimately I want to "dominate" the auditioniers mind as the best for the role.

Instead of considering using a love ethic as a big 180 degree change in our lives, I believe it should instead be seen as a filter that we do everything through. In all of our daily activities we can look though this "love filter" and re-think our actions by adding in some love. Ultimately if everyone one day actually would live their lives with the love ethic that the author discusses, then we would all be happier and in a much better world. I am just skeptical of doing it completely myself for fear of getting hurt emotionally. I feel that if I live with a love ethic around a bunch of people concentrated on power and domination, that I will appear weaker. The author emphasizes that "'There is no fear in love.' But we do fear and fear keeps us from trusting in love." I believe that this is part of my issue, I'm too afraid to live completely with a love ethic.

I find that I am most able to apply the love ethic to my relationship with my boyfriend. I don't fear getting hurt and I know that if I embrace the love ethic when it comes to him, only good can come out of it. "Embracing a love ethic means that we utilize all the dimensions of love-'care, commitment, trust, responsibility, respect, and knowledge'-in our everyday lives." I always try to keep these things in my mind when I am around my boyfriend and especially when we fight. If there isn't love in what I say to my boyfriend or what I do for him, then I know we may not be ultimately happy.

I think the love ethic is a great idea and I want so badly to live in a world where evryone embraces it.